Who You Are vs. Who You Want To Be
One of the most common issues that comes up for many folks when considering how they may improve their lives tends to be expressed in the phrase,
“But that’s not who I am!”
Here’s an example.
For most of my life, I’ve always been the “behind the scenes” guy supporting others out in the spotlight.
In fact, I was very uncomfortable being the center of attention.
I even justified it with the idea that I was less driven by ego and “flash”, and more concerned with “substance”.
It’s one of the reasons I’ve never really pushed to get my materials out in the public eye, where they could help the most folks.
It’s also one of the reasons why I felt that maybe I should spend more time pursuing my photography business.
But when I sat down and really looked at what I was doing, as if I were coaching a client, I realized that the core of the issue was a belief that being in the spotlight wasn’t something I associated with “who I was”.
As is often the case with coaching clients, my mind produced one excuse after another to justify its position.
In the end, I had to admit that if I could change my beliefs about who I was, and what I enjoyed doing, I could actually ENJOY being in the spotlight and taking center stage.
Especially when I knew how much doing so would help those in my online community.
What about you? What are you avoiding because you feel it just isn’t you? What could you change about yourself that would lead to more success, more freedom, more fun, and more love?
If you’re not sure, take a few minutes, relax, and ask your inner mind what possibilities await in your future.
Then patiently, lovingly, wait for an answer. Ask what steps you could take today to bring yourself closer to those marvelous possibilities. And even allow yourself to indulge in the experience of being in that glorious future situation, complete with all the sights, sounds, feelings, and other sensations that you would expect to be there.
That alone will help you motivate yourself to take action.
Now, if you’re one of those who doesn’t seem to get a response when talking to your deeper mind, give it time. It can take time to relax deeply enough to make contact with your inner mind, and it can also take time to gain its trust, especially if you’ve habitually ignored it.