For many people, the whole reason for reaching for unlimited success is to attract and maintain high-quality relationships.
As you might expect, the secret to successful relationships starts with the foundations we’ve been discussing these last few weeks.
A strong sense of self-esteem is essential.
So is having lots of self-confidence.
And when you’re motivated and productive, you can easily set aside the time required to build and maintain happy, healthy relationships.
So in this week’s article, we’ll just assume that you already have those aspects of yourself under control.
If not, go back to those earlier articles and do what you can to bring them under control.
The first thing to understand about creating and maintaining harmonious relationships is that the other person always has a choice to give you what you want in the relationship, or not.
When you keep this in mind, it’s easier to understand that it’s up to YOU to give the other person a REASON to give you what you want in the relationship.
The types of reasons that have the greatest impact are not always obvious.
Recall how I mentioned that having strong self-esteem and self-confidence are essential to having great relationships?
Think of it this way — would you rather have a strong, independent person invite you to dinner once a month, or would you rather have some loser constantly degrading themselves to do things for you?
You become a more valuable partner in a relationship when you have strong self-esteem, self-sufficiency, confidence, motivation, productivity, and self-mastery.
And when you are a more valuable partner, other people are more willing to give you what you want in a relationship.
Of course, things like self-esteem, confidence, motivation and so on are just the beginning.
Beyond honoring the value of yourself and the other person, good relationships are built on having good times together.
And good times come from good communication skills, a sense of humor, a caring attitude, and in intimate relationships, well-developed sexual skills.
Of course, if you have significant financial resources, you have more choices available, Few people can take their friends on an excursion around the world, or buy their special someone a whole new wardrobe.
Keep in mind, though, that buying gifts is not a requirement to having happy and harmonious relationships.
For many people, having someone who actually listens to them and cares what they think is much more valuable.
And just to point out the obvious, this is true whether we’re talking about the intimate relationship you have with your spouse, or your relationships with your coworkers.
Now, on to the “how to” part of this article.
First, use the information in the earlier articles to develop your self-esteem, self-sufficiency, confidence, motivation, productivity, and self-mastery.
Use the information I gave you on Harmonic Prayer to get Divine Guidance to lead you to do and say the right things to help make harmonious relationships “just happen”.
Respect yourself, and respect those around you.
And in this, don’t beat yourself up if you’re not perfect at all this the first time around. Just do what you can, when you can, and work to improve yourself over time.
Invest some of your time, energy, and concentration to develop great relationships by paying attention to what people say, what they do, and consider what might be going on inside them, motivating them to say and do those things.
Consider that if you were in their position, having lived their life, that maybe you would do and say the same things.
Practice forgiveness and understanding as much as you can.
And above all else, show that you care.
If you recall from our earlier discussion on Harmonic Prayer, the more you express love in its many forms, the more you bring yourself into harmony with the Divine Essence of the Universe, and the more that things will go your way.
It really is amazing what can happen when you live life from a position of love and respect.