For years, I’ve talked about how our beliefs create our experiences.
The quote that comes up most often is: According to your faith is it done to you.
Of course, even on a purely physical level, our beliefs lead to our decisions, which leads to our actions, which leads to our results.
You decided to do something because you believed it was the right thing to do in the circumstances.
In some cases, our beliefs hold us back. We know logically that we should do X or Y, but we “just don’t feel like it” or “that’s not me.”
Maybe you want to speak up more often, or ask someone out on a date, or say ‘no’ when you have other plans. Maybe you want to be more organized, but find yourself setting things ‘anywhere’ because you don’t have the time to file them where they should go.
I struggled a lot with self-confidence.
I always put other people first, waiting for my turn to get what I deserved, and found that if I wanted to get what I deserved, I had to stand up for it. But I didn’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings, so I sat back and settled for whatever came my way.
While I had made tremendous progress in this area, last year I discovered that I was still holding myself back, and the responsible belief was based on a memory from kindergarten. One day, after school, a friend and I were playing in the schoolyard, and I did something which caused us to lose one of his toy cars.
I felt so guilty losing his toy, I spent a long, LONG time looking for that car. I even missed the bus going home because I was still looking for that toy.
One of the first results I got from the new Symbolic Solutions process was when I decided to change the memory itself.
I relaxed as deeply as I could, which at that time was quite deep.
I took myself back in time to that day, and changed the memory to include my friend telling me that he didn’t really care about that toy anyways, and that it really didn’t matter.
I made sure to take time to imagine us playing together and having fun, regardless of what happened with the toy.
When I came out of it, I could tell the feelings caused by that memory were different. It felt as if a heavy weight was gone, and I was free again.
Immediately, I went back in to rewrite other memories from my childhood. Times when I thought other kids were teasing me and making fun of me. I changed those memories so I could look at it as a game we were all playing together, and I was having fun in the experience. I only spent a few minutes on the whole process. No more than 30 minutes for everything.
Yet the change it made in me was tremendous! I consider it one of the most profound results I’ve received from anything I’ve ever done.